Monday, June 14, 2010

No perfection here either....

After reading (Erin's) and (Tina's) blogs on people portraying themselves as having a perfect life (when we all know that is not the reality), I thought I would jump on the bandwagon too and share some of the imperfections in my own life.

I have been accused in the past of being "Little Miss Perfect" (by my own sister who of all people should know better) because I look for the positive in everything and because I am one of these eternally cheerful people.

So, after a big breath, here we go:

1. I yell. Sometimes a lot. Our 2 year old says "Mum stop yelling to me". How bad does that make me feel?

2. I am too trusting - I trust everyone until they give me reason not to (regardless of reasons they may have given others not to trust them). I need to learn to be more wary and maybe a bit more reserved.

3. I don't often have an opinion on things, nor am I good at decision making. When I was growing up all my decisions were made for me by my strict mother & we weren't allowed to have opinions, we just had to do as we were told. So I was never taught the self confidence to be able to do this.

4. I am lazy when it comes to housework. That's why I get so excited when I read ideas on how to make running a household easier (call it decrapifying or decluttering or whatever). 

5. I have 20 kg to lose and have struggled with my weight all my life. Sound familiar? I have lost it 3 times already but I keep allowing it to come back. Maybe it's that whole self confidence thing again.

6. I rarely allow myself to have a day when I feel low, telling myself to snap out of it coz there is always someone out there worse off than I am.. Maybe I need to let myself feel sad sometimes because I know that one day it will all catch up with me otherwise & I will be a basket case. A couple of times in my life I have had what I call mini meltdowns and not always realised until afterwards. Maybe it's time to put myself first a bit more often.

7. I don't have the perfect husband,, nor does he have the perfect wife. But we love each other. We have been married since 1992 & almost split up in 1996 when our first child was 6 months old.

8. We overspend. Continually. Sure we have a big house but we also have a big mortgage.

9. I also struggle to keep up the washing & folding. I do not iron as such. I get the board out every day & iron the school uniforms. My mother, mother in law & babysitter all fold washing when they visit - they probably feel sorry for me!

10. I sometimes wish for time away from my family even though they are my life.

That's what I have come up with for now, but I'm sure I will think of more.....

Karen xx


Tina said...

I can relate to just about everything on your list, Karen. Although we don't have a mortgage, but we do overspend. And I know that my weight problem has a bit to do with my self-confidence too.

As for putting yourself first sometimes, you really need to do it. I think that my "mini meltdown" recently was because of me not putting myself first and it got so bad, that I was almost going to walk away from my hubby and kids. I didn't realise that it was just a matter of me having some time out.

Love ya! xx

Erin said...

Yep me too ,we over spend and have a big mortgage ,and yes you really do need to put yourself first sometimes i didn't do it for years and used to every now and then have mini meltdowns if things get on top of me now and i haven't had me time for a while i still have mini meltdowns so me time is a must!

i cant imagine you yelling but its ok because i yell a lot too no its no wonder my neighbours dont talk to me lol

mummabear1970 said...

Thanks Girls!! I feel better already. Isn't it amazing than when one person has the guts to put their "flaws" out there, we find we have so many in common! I think they are simply female traits, not really flaws, just like men like beer & sport which often frustrates the hell out of us!

Bek xoxo said...

I have to say Karen that even with all your "flaws" you are a wonderful person and a wonderful friend! Thanks for being my friend, you always make my day brighter... You are very caring and considerate - I know this was about not perfect lives but thought I would add some positiveness!!

MultipleMum said...

Hi Karen,
I just found your blog. What an amazingly honest post this is. I found myself identifying many of my own flaws in your list (must be a Mum thing?).

I look forward to reading more about you :)